Talking to Your Child's Teachers
February 26, 2011, By Steve Thompson 0 comments
You remember what it was like. You got caught smoking in the bathroom or cheating on a test, and your school arranged a parent-teacher conference. Now it's happening with your kid, and you have no idea what to say to your child's teacher.
Make the time. Times are tough, your boss is always on your back, and your office is 30 miles from your child's school. Doesn't matter. If there is any way, you should make an appearance at a parent-teacher conference. In my experience, schools will work with you to find a time that works.
Prepare questions. Sitting across from your child's teacher, confronted by all your memories of life in school, it's easy to forget your purpose for attending the meeting. Write down a list of questions you want to ask and bring the list with you. At least you'll know you've covered all your bases.
Avoid assigning blame. Even if you feel your child's teacher isn't living up to their responsibilities, avoid saying it out loud. Teachers are used to dads who blame them for everything from poor test scores to issues with bullying, and there is no quicker way to torpedo your child's success in class. You can voice concerns, but do so in a polite, respectful, professional way.
Don't take offense. Your child's teacher might ask you about your home life and your parenting efforts. They are not on a witch hunt; it is just easier for teachers to connect with children when they have all the facts.
Ask for advice. Teachers love to share their knowledge with parents, and they appreciate parents who are interested in a cooperative relationship when it comes to helping children succeed. You don't have to act on every suggestion, but asking for professional recommendations will help open the lines of communication.
