5 Annoying Comments Women Make in Front of Their Husbands

September 14, 2011, By 42 comments

5 Annoying Comments Women Make in Front of Their Husbands

One of the most uncomfortable things about dinner parties, cook-outs and other similar gatherings is overhearing nasty things women say in front of their husbands. They may not mean these things maliciously, but they sure sound that way you’re your wife is prone to say things like this, perhaps it’s time to sit down with her⎯maybe with this article in hand⎯and have a chat.

“Brad Pitt is one hot hunk!”

Every guy knows that Brad, George, et al are rich, good-looking guys. When a woman goes on and on⎯and on⎯about how hot some male celebrity is in front of her husband, I just want to shake my head. Yeah, her husband may be no Bradley Cooper, but does she need to remind him of that? Unless there are no mirrors in their house, I doubt it.

“My husband could never do that.”

OK, we’ll take her word on it and assume that her husband can’t remodel a kitchen, train a dog or win a ballroom dancing contest. But why does she make a public statement about what her husband can’t do? There must be any number of things he can do⎯really well. So why can’t she celebrate those abilities rather than busting his chops about what he can’t do? Clearly there’s one thing these husbands can do better than most men: bite their tongues.

“He wouldn’t know romance if it bit him in the ass.”

Hmm. And perhaps she wouldn’t know rude even if it did chomp on her rump. If her husband isn’t the romantic she would like him to be, she shouldn’t complain out loud to others, but talk to him about it. The guy clearly wooed her at one point, perhaps he just needs a refresher course. This much is certain: a wife calling her husband unromantic in front of others will do absolutely nothing to make him any more of a Valentino. In fact, it will probably have the exact opposite effect.

“He doesn’t stand up for himself at work; he should have been promoted long ago.”

These types of statements are particularly hurtful. We guys root our identities in, among other things, strength and providing for our families. Saying stuff like this is equivalent to a wife calling her husband weak. Ouch.

“He’s worse than the kids.”

How snide. And how degrading. Any wife who thinks her husband is as messy, whiny, or whatever as her kids needs to have a serious sit down with her husband (and maybe a therapist) to talk it over. Just as importantly, she’s not to stop insulting her husband in front of her others, which, by the way, is a kid-like behavior unto itself. 

Comments (42):

Mrs L. God forbid that I say this mean things to my husband! God, no! But I have heard other women saying stuff like that to their husbands. Man, I don't want to be in their shoes. Been married or in a relationship, there has to be mutual respect. If you don't have respect to one person, don't expect it back! - 11/05/2011
Captain S. My only question is why the heck is his wife not in the kitchen? P.S. My eggs are cold B***h, whip me up some fresh ones before YOU catch a whipping! - 11/03/2011
Fanny '. "Just as importantly, she's not to stop insulting her husband in front of her others, . . . " Why is she not to stop insulting her husband? Is this some kind of therapy to break down her husband into submission? I would take this article and show him that he is supposed to be insulted and not stop insulting him! If Obama can insult our intelligence, maybe a wife can pull the same trick on husbands. - 11/02/2011
Hugh L. Misery loves Company. The majority of women are miserable, unhappy, emotional wrecks. And they want those around them to share in that misery, that unhappiness. And when you don't let them share with you, their only recourse is to lash out, most often verbally, sometimes physically when they really get out of hand, at you. And its always in public, when you least expect it. These characteristics/traits exist in 90% of all marriages, relationships. If someone disagrees with this, you are in denial, and probably are one of the 90% of women I am describing. For the other 10%, God Bless you. For the men who are lucky enough to have one of the 10%, good for you, enjoy. - 11/02/2011
Cris B. Sal B The women in this report arent Entitled To bash anyone especially theirhusbands. IF YOURE A WIFE SAYING THIS WAS OK. GET A DIVORCE AND STOP RUINING YOUR HUSBANDS YOUR AND YOUR KIDS LIVES IF U HAVE EM. Noone is forcing you to be unhappy. Well Just you. My wife and i love each other and we do have our arguments but to spew stuff like this out infront of her friends or me in front of mine about her, is degrading and just sad that anyone is in a relationship like that. Complain all you want. Divorce is an option. Being Miserable Is a choice that these women or men CHOOSE. - 10/30/2011
My Friend F. If my wife said those kinds of things about me, then she would be defending herself in a court room. - 10/29/2011
B B. If your wife says these kinds of things about you in front of others, then you married the wrong girl. - 10/28/2011
C B. @Bumpkin P. Careful you do not use this one man's behavior as a stereotype for the whole lot. I, for one, am repulsed by all forms of substance abuse. All are ugly, be they drink, drug or tobacco. As for me and my house, mutual respect has been the natural rule for 35 years. There are things she can not do, things I can not do and yet we work together to fill in each others gaps and never are such weaknesses used as personal weapons. Using weakness as a weapon is far more ignorant and barbaric as not having the skills and knowledge, the lack of which would cause such insults. - 10/26/2011
Acey C. Harry B are you confessing to being a woman beater? Just wondering by your joke on 10/22/10. - 10/25/2011
Fourth T. Women who resort to nagging and complaining need to understand tthat nagging and complaining will breed resentment and hostility toward the person who is nagging and complaining. In the field of transactional behavior, one learns that to influence another's behavior one must first build up a bank of good will before attempting behavior change. In other words: You can catch more bees with honey instead of vinegar. - 10/25/2011
Bigun J. It all depends on who she is saying it to and how she is saying it. If her intent is harmless but in any way offends, she should be gently rebuked for having said something that was not nice. If she is simply talking with the girls, she should be given as much leeway as you would need when just yapping it up with the guys. If on the other hand she is intentionally hurtful, she is hurting herself in ways that her dumb, ignorant ego will not understand ...or allow any corrective action. Do not walk away from her - RUN...and don't look back. - 10/25/2011
Kevin L. The best thing that can happen to a woman that says these things is to have a son, and ask her how she would feel if a woman treated her son like this... - 10/23/2011
Sean M. My wife in 25 years of marriage has never uttered anything remotely as disparaging as the comments listed in this article. We both speak highly of each other to others, and whatever dirty laundry we have is not aired in public. Perhaps that is why we ARE still married after 25 years. It's called mutual respect. - 10/22/2011
Bumpkin P. Correctly stated. Now, I want to see your follow-up article delineating what men shouldn't say to others in front of their wives. Like, "Women are bitches". -or, "Women cant fix anything-they're helpless", or "look at the love handles on THAT fat pig,", or "MY wife cant do anything right, et al, et al... This door swings BOTH ways. - Oh, BTW, I have a great one for you- my 2nd husband said he was leaving me because I was "smarter than him", and he felt stupid around me, although, he admitted, I had never told him I was smarter than him - and he also told me I am a good wife, -then left me for another woman. She was a drug addict who said she "needed" him, and he said he felt that I am independent enough to take care of myself. Explain that one to your readers. A male mentor once told me that men need a cause to fight for, a trophy to display, and a woman to rescue. an aside...@ Mary W.- "Always remember, what's taught is what's known...the memories of children are written in stone." - 10/22/2011
Harry B. Q: What do you tell a woman with two black eyes ????? A: Nothing, you already told her twice ! - 10/22/2011
Mary W. Everyday you hear in the news about all the bullying going on and mean things kids do to each other. Where you suppose they learn it. - 10/18/2011
Justin B. Eve, the goals of the feminist movement may have once been respectable, but they certainly are not respectable today. Women are more than equal today. They earn more than men, have more rights in courts, and are exempt from being enslaved by the government. Women need to either start treating men in the way that they want men to treat them or shut the hell up and make me a sandwich. - 10/16/2011

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