8 Signs She Is Leaving You

July 02, 2011, By Karl Withakay 26 comments

As a man, I'm not tuned into women's feelings; it's just the way I am. When I'm unhappy, I say why I'm unhappy and what can be done to fix it. Women aren't like that. They speak in code or give subtle hints, and usually all of it goes right over my head. Here are some of the things I learned about rocky relationships, and how to break down the barrier between men and women. If your wife or girlfriend is considering leaving the relationship, it's likely that she'll behave in at least one of the following ways:

1. She no longer confides in you, and she isn't interested in talking with you.
2. She does her best to avoid you by staying out late, making plans without you and spending more time with friends.
3. She doesn't complain about things that she always complained about before. This may be because she thinks that she's going to leave you soon anyway.
4. She doesn't seem glad to see you when you get home; she no longer misses you.
5. She has no interest in sex.
6. She has a "whatever" attitude. She doesn't want to discuss any plans for the future or even for next week.
7. She doesn't like to hold hands with you or be touched, kissed or hugged by you. When she kisses you, she acts like she's kissing a relative. When you go to kiss her, she turns her head so that you kiss her cheek.
8. Her friends and family act a bit different and uncomfortable around you because she has told them that she intends to leave you.

I remember during the latter part of my first marriage, I would tell my wife "I love you" and she would reply "OK" or "I know." She would say anything to keep from having to say that she loved me too. Sex wasn't very frequent at all. We'd have sex about once a month if I was lucky. Even during sex, if I attempted to kiss her, she would turn her head so I'd kiss her neck or her cheek. As far as foreplay, she was just interested in things I could do for her. She did nothing for me.

If any of these behaviors are present in your relationship, sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her. Choose a time during the week when she is not in the middle of tackling other tasks, and avoid weeknights most of all. She's bound to be tired from her day's work, and therefore more irritable and less willing to go into the emotionally taxing subject you want to discuss. When was the last time you made a good decision when you were dog tired?