Guide for Guys: Libido

October 09, 2010, By 6 comments

Guide for Guys: Libido

Our sex drive can be influenced by a variety of things. Physically, there has to be the correct mix of hormones shooting through our body for the libido to be working properly. If we are lacking in that area, a super model wouldn't be able to get your motor running.

Testosterone

Women have the hormone testosterone, too, but as men, we have a great deal more of it. That's why we can grow facial hair and women can't. Testosterone plays a major role in our libido, too. If it's at a low level, our sex drive will be affected in a negative way. (The corresponding hormone in women is called estrogen.) If there is any illness or condition that is affecting the production of testosterone in a man's body, their sex drive will wane. When the body slows testosterone production, your semen count is lowered as well.

Blood Flow

Upon arousal, blood fills the penis' tissues and becomes erect. If you have anything that is interfering with the blood flow to your penis, this will lessen your sex drive. Certain illnesses and medications can lessen blood flow to your penis. Viagra and similar medications increase that blood flow.

A Sluggish Male Reproductive System

This occurs when your body becomes tired, or physically and mentally stressed out. It can occur, too, if you are not getting enough of the daily requirements of vitamins and minerals. Some medications may interfere with your energy levels and production of testosterone and can seriously affect your desire for sex.

Most of the issues regarding a low libido in a man are psychological ones, as well as small hormonal imbalances occurring in the body.

The following conditions can cause a decrease in testosterone and lower men's libidos.

  • Kidney problems
  • Radiation and chemo therapy
  • Smoking and drug problems
  • Alcohol abuse
  • Aging
  • Injury and inflammation

Many of these factors can be managed or prevented. With a healthy lifestyle and low stress, it's possible to have a decent sex drive well into your 80s. An overactive sex drive might even have resulted in some of the worst political sex scandals in recent years.

If you're having any issues with your sex drive, treatments are available. Don't be embarrassed -- see your doctor about it today.

Comments (6):

John M. I got the impression that Pat W may not have wife/significant other and was referring to interludes as in dates with new women. Hard to get that fourth date when you don't perform on the third date. Try the pills yo ma only need them to get your confidence back... - 06/29/2011
Unfullfilled W. Pat W. PLEASE keep trying especially if your girl is hugging and kissing you. Me and my 10 year younger husband (45/55) of 11 years have sex 10 tens a year if I'm lucky and half of that I have to beg for just to get an low foreplay, lest he lose his erection, unfulfulling pairing. I so mis making love with him the way it used to be. After 6 years of this I feel so unattractive, undesireable, unwomanly, sexually inadequate, and it has truly wrecked my sense of self. Yes, I tried an affair but the truth is I want to make love with HIM but he won't inquire about ED meds. I grieve for what we had. PLEASE, do viagra, oral , something, before she considers having an affair to get her emotional/physical needs met. I don't think he's any happier than me but is too embarrased to do anything about it. @Kirk, yeah there are other was to express love and sex, but the truth is they don't bring the same joy and emotional attachment that foreplay and penetrative sex brings. I want the foreplay and the penetration,the touching the kissing and the laughter. Mutual mastrubation and "toys" are FAR from satisfactory. We were never swing from the ceiling people, we'd get adventurus periodically if we read something, but we both preferred the joy of us. - 06/24/2011
Sky J. Aside from some men who suffer from specific medical conditions, I believe that "quickfix pills" like Viagra wouldn't be needed if men & women would just be honest with each other. Think about it: How many guys out there have to take Viagra because their spouse won't engage in the kind of fourplay men need? We all live in a dual income, busy world. Couples need to meet each others needs and sadly, that rarely happens. If your current spouse doesn't meet your needs and won't try to meet your needs - find out why. Physical intimacy is essential to a thriving relationship. Some men require fourplay just as some women require it. If you're not GGG (good guy/girl giving) to your spouse, don't expect them to be GGG either. And - if one of you isn't GGG - well then, sexual problems exist. 90% of sexual problems are mental, emotional. Viagra can help but life is much better when you & your spouse are both GGG and into each other - meeting each others needs and making time for each other. And lastly - sexual problems are nearly non-existent in relationships where Sweet Feelings are always a priority. - 06/15/2011
Kirk G. @Pat W.-- I urge you to speak with your doctor about this. Low T levels can affect your ability to have sex, but it may be possible for Viagra, Cialis, Lavitra or other ED drug to help return your ability to have an erection, making sex more likely. But you really need to speak with your doctor. This CAN be treated. A patient partner can help. By the way, you know there are other ways to express both love and sex besides straight intercourse, right? Get a self-help book on "The Guide To Getting It On" by Paul Joannides (Goofy Foot Press) and read up on them. You might find she enjoys something other than the ol' in & out even more! Good luck. - 05/15/2011
Andy A. love-the-question*s-&-the-answer*s--Andy-Bear--Shoot-Low-There-Riding-Shetland*s - 04/22/2011
Pat W. I have diabetes and at around 50 started having trouble staying erect. After several embarrassing interludes I just stopped trying...I still get the urge but the problem keeps me from going any further. any help? - 04/14/2011

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