Just Do It
August 25, 2010, By P.K. Lassiter 3 comments
Nike isn’t just a shoe company. Nike is the Greek goddess of victory. She personifies strength, courage and glory. But the aforementioned slogan can be used relating to something else you may have been pondering in your efforts to meet more ladies. The newest age-old question of the single adult male. Do you -- or do you not -- join a dating website?
The thought used to make me cringe with fear and potential embarrassment. Why do I need to join some silly website to meet women? Can’t I do that all on my own? Do I really want to put myself out there that much?
After asking a few colleagues and friends (the single ones), I realized any questions I may have had were well worth shelving until I checked this out for myself. So I did. And let me tell you, I’m eternally appreciative for their encouragement. Yes, I learned some things the hard way. Yes, sometimes things just didn’t "click." But after a few edits to my profile and pic, things really started working out. Here’s why …
Be Modest
You don’t need to talk about your salary, your boat, or your vacations to Bora Bora. Women see this in spades on these sites and it rarely works in your favor. You get what you ask for here, and if you want to impress women with your cash flow then you're going to get just that – women impressed with your cash flow – and not you. Unless of course you’re looking for that sort of thing. And in that case, have at it. You’re not reading this article anyway.
Picture/Picture/Picture
I cannot stress the importance of it enough. Just like location, if the pic doesn’t represent who you really are – things are going to go south very quickly. Don’t choose a pic from your high school basketball days. Don’t put the pic through a quick photoshop session before it’s posted. And don’t ever, and I mean never, choose a pic that isn’t you. The more the picture looks like who you are TODAY, the more success you will have. Women want truth, integrity … reality.
The Words are the Thing
Play up your strengths, but don’t be afraid to touch on your interests that maybe few people know about. A little vulnerability mixed with honesty is lethal on these sites. No – I’m not suggesting you take the injured puppy route. Not at all. But if you have a weakness for corny movies, say so. Like to go to the spa, great. Into flowers … cool. Play those things up. You’re still the man, now you’re a well-rounded one.
Don’t Give Up
You might not hit a home run the first time up to bat (but maybe so -- Will Clark did). Stay committed. There will be weird phone calls. You might meet the wrong woman and maybe even go on a few bad dates. The stories will all be worth it in the end when you find that one woman you really enjoy spending time with.
If you use these tips, then you should be batting them away like flies in no time. And like me, you’ll wonder why it took you so long to come around. And then it won’t be just Nike who personifies courage, strength … and glory. Just do it.
P.K. Lassiter is a freelance writer and featured contributor to ManoftheHouse.com.
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